About family violence

What is family violence?

Family violence is when someone behaves abusively towards a family member. It is part of a pattern of behaviour that controls or dominates a person and causes them to fear for their own or others’ safety and wellbeing.

Violent and abusive behaviour includes physical and sexual violence,
and financial, emotional and psychological abuse. Slapping, hitting, rape, verbal threats, harassment, stalking, withholding money, and deliberately isolating someone from their friends and family are some examples of the types of behaviour that occur in family violence.

In Victoria, the meaning of family violence is set out in the Family Violence Protection Act 2008.

Who does family violence affect?

Family violence is most commonly carried out by men against women who are their current or former partners. This is also known as intimate partner violence.

Children living in homes where family violence occurs are affected through witnessing the behaviour or themselves being subject to abuse.

Family violence is also perpetrated by:

  • people, including family members, who provide support for people with disabilities
  • adult children against their elderly parent/s
  • people in same-sex relationships
  • family members against others in their extended family1
  • siblings

How common is family violence?

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In Victoria, data on all family incidents attended by police are collated each year. The latest report for 2015–16 shows:

  • 78,012 family incidents, an increase of 10% from the previous year
  • of those affected, 74.8% were female and 24.8% male.4

The incidence of family violence is likely to be much higher than these figures indicate, as many incidents of family violence are never reported.

What causes family violence?

Family violence is complex. We know from international evidence that the major cause is inequality between women and men – that is, the unequal distribution of power, resources and opportunities. Stereotypical ideas about the roles of women and men in society and the way they should behave fosters an environment for violence against women to occur.5

Gender inequality plays out in society in many different ways, including:

  • ‘everyday sexism’ such as sexual and verbal harassment of women and girls
  • demeaning and sexualised portrayals of women and girls in the media
  • fewer women in leadership roles, giving men more control over decision‐making
  • the gender pay gap, caused by men being paid more than women for the same or similar work
  • women’s sport attracting less sponsorship, prize money and media coverage compared to men’s.

In individual relationships, this inequality plays out in the belief that a man is entitled to exercise power and control over his partner and children. Individuals – both women and men – are more likely to condone, tolerate or excuse violence against women when they don’t believe women and men are equal, or see them as having firmly set roles or characteristics.

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For a detailed description of gendered drivers and reinforcing factors, go to Change the Story: A shared framework for the primary prevention of violence against women and their children in Australia.

What is the impact of family violence?

Family violence by a partner has an enormous impact on the women and children who experience it and on the community as a whole. Abuse and violence can severely limit the activities of women and children and affect their participation in all aspects of life.6 The impact of violence against women and their children costs the Australian economy more than $21.7 billion per year, and this cost is rising.7

Quick Facts

Across Australia, police are called out to a family violence incident on average once every two minutes

  • Every three hours a woman is admitted to hospital as a result of family violence8
  • At least one woman a week is killed by a partner or former partner
  • Intimate partner violence is:
    • the leading contributor to preventable illness, disability and death for women aged 15 to 44
    • the single largest driver of homelessness for women
    • a common factor in child protection notifications.9

How women experience family violence

While every woman’s experience of family violence is unique, for many women experiencing family violence there is a spiral of increasing abuse (this could be physical, emotional, financial, or a combination), rather than a one-off incident. Family violence often starts with an intimate partner’s apparent love transforming into controlling and intimidating behaviour. Over time, the woman is often increasingly isolated from friends and family by her partner. Physical violence may not occur until the relationship is well established, or it may not occur at all. The abusive, violent and controlling behaviours create an environment of fear and constant anxiety in a place where women and children should feel safe and secure.

Common experiences for women include:

  • constant monitoring and regulation of her everyday activities such as phone calls, social interactions and dress
  • her every move measured against an unpredictable, ever-changing and unknowable ‘rule book’10
  • constant put downs by her partner about anything and everything she does
  • having no control or say over the household finances
  • criticism of the way she parents her children
  • disrespectful behaviour towards her in front of their children and others
  • threats and actual physical violence against her, their children and pets
  • being blamed for the violence
  • surveillance using smartphones and other technology.11

Impact on women

Abuse and violence have a destructive effect on women over time. It can affect her:

  • self-esteem, confidence and ability to make decisions
  • employment, financial independence and long term security
  • relationships with children and capacity to be a loving, effective parent
  • social connections with family, friends and community networks
  • physical health and wellbeing.

It can cause:

  • physical injuries, chronic pain and other medical symptoms and illnesses
  • anxiety, depression, eating, sleep and panic disorders, suicidal behaviour, traumatic and post-traumatic stress disorders
  • the adoption of risk behaviours that further affect health such as substance and alcohol abuse, and physical inactivity
  • unwanted pregnancy, difficulties during pregnancy, foetal abnormalities, stillbirth and low birth weight.13

Impact on children and young people

Children often hear or witness family violence, and this has a cumulative impact on them. Effects include:14

  • impacts on the brain’s neural pathways, affecting cognitive development and stress response systems15
  • low self-esteem and difficulties at school affecting their long term employment and financial security
  • mental health problems including anxiety, depression, symptoms of trauma, eating disorders and, for some, suicide attempts
  • increased aggression, anti-social behaviour and likelihood of substance abuse
  • teenage pregnancy.

As well as impacting on health, wellbeing and education, growing up with family violence can affect relationships in later life. Many children who experience family violence do not go on to use violence as adults, but research shows that boys who have been exposed to family violence are more likely to become perpetrators themselves. Meanwhile, girls may be more accepting of intimate partner violence than those who hadn’t experienced family violence as children.16

Why it is hard for women to leave violent relationships17

Leaving a violent relationship is difficult and many women will attempt to leave a number of times before finally separating.18 There are many reasons for this.

Increased risk of harm

  • Violence often escalates when the woman is planning to leave or actually leaves, with an increased risk of assault, stalking and murder.
  • Many family violence homicides occur during the separation period.

Barriers to accessing the system

  • Women experiencing family violence may not know there are support services that can help them.
  • Women may not know about the kinds of support available to them; they may feel that services won’t be able to help with their situation.
  • Women may not have access to money and may not know where financial support is available.
  • A lack of safe and affordable housing options means women may feel there’s nowhere to go.

Financial pressures

  • Lack of access to money or other resources.
  • Having to leave her job if she needs to be relocated for safety.

Conflicting concerns and priorities

  • Not wanting to disrupt her children’ lives, education, and links to family and community.
  • Believing it’s in her children’s best interests to be close to their father.
  • Continuing to care for her partner and hoping he will change. (Many women don’t want to leave the relationship, they just want the violence to stop.)
  • For some Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women, the fear of putting their connections to extended kinship and family networks and to land at risk.
  • For some women with disabilities, the fear of losing the person on whom they feel dependent.
  • For some immigrant and refugee women, the fear of losing their residency entitlements.
  • Wanting to avoid the stigma associated with being a single parent.

Social isolation and its effects

  • Feelings of shame and guilt about the violence or believing it is her fault.
  • Fear of being isolated or ostracised by her community.
  • Difficulty making decisions because she has been cut off from friends and family, is exhausted, and/or lacks confidence in her own judgement.

What about men?

There is strong evidence that men are overwhelmingly more likely than women to be perpetrators of family violence than victims. But men also experience family violence.

Many of the male victims of intimate partner violence are in same-sex relationships. For example in the one of the largest surveys of LGBTI people ever conducted, the Private Lives study, found that of the 33 per cent of participants who had experienced intimate partner abuse, 28 per cent were men19.

Many males grow up in homes where family violence is present. That most recent statistics show that over half a million women reported that their children had seen or heard partner violence. And over 400,000 women experienced partner violence during pregnancy20.

There is evidence to show that along with the range of detrimental effects (see link to Impact on children and young people section), exposure to family violence in childhood can increase the risk of males becoming perpetrators in adulthood21.

Both men and women are three times more likely to assaulted by a man than a woman. For women these assaults are more likely to occur in their home whereas men are more likely to be assaulted in a place of entertainment22.

Find out more:
Flood, M 2013 He hits, she hits: Assessing debates regarding men’s and women’s experiences of domestic violence.
http://www.xyonline.net/content/he-hits-she-hits-assessing-debates-regarding-men%E2%80%99s-and-women%E2%80%99s-experiences-domestic-violence

No to Violence, 2014 No to Violence response to the One in Three organisation’s comments about male victims
http://ntv.org.au/wp-content/uploads/141125-senate-dv-inquiry-NTV-1in3campaign-response.pdf

The Line, What about violence towards men? http://www.theline.org.au/what-about-men

Stark Evan, 2009, Coercive Control: How men entrap women in personal life, Oxford University Press, Oxford

Coercive control: How can you tell whether your partner is emotionally abusive?
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/coercive-control-how-can-you-tell-whether-your-partner-is-emotio/

1 See Our Watch, www.ourwatch.org.au

2 Our Watch, Facts and Figures, www.ourwatch.org.au/Understanding‐Violence/Facts‐and‐figures, viewed 10 May 2016.

3 ABS Personal Safety Survey and Australian Institute of Criminology, 2012. Compiled in this format by Our Watch and ANROWS. http://media.aomx.com/anrows.org.au/s3fs‐public/Key%20statistics%20‐%20all.pdf, viewed 10 May 2016.

4 Crime Statistics Agency Victoria, 2016, https://www.crimestatistics.vic.gov.au/crime-statistics/latest-crime-data/family-incidents-0">https://www.crimestatistics.vic.gov.au/crime-statistics/latest-crime-data/family-incidents-0">https://www.crimestatistics.vic.gov.au/crime-statistics/latest-crime-data/family-incidents-0, viewed 18 November 2016.

5 The information and graphics in this section are adapted from Our Watch, Australia’s National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety (ANROWS), and VicHealth, 2015, Change the story: A shared framework for the primary prevention of violence against women and their children in Australia, Melbourne, Foreword and p. 8, viewed 10 May 2016.

6 Change the Story, p. 12, viewed 10 May 2016.

7 Our Watch, VicHealth & PWC, 2015, A high price to pay: The economic case for preventing violence against women, PWC, Melbourne, https://www.pwc.com/gx/en/psrc/publications/assets/high‐price‐to‐pay.pdf. This study estimates that unless action is taken to prevent violence, the costs will accumulate to $323.4 billion over the thirty years to 2044–45.

8 Pointer S & Kreisfeld R, 2012, Hospitalised interpersonal violence and perpetrator coding, Australia, 2002–05, Injury research and statistics series no. 77. Cat. no. INJCAT 153, AIHW, Canberra, http://www.aihw.gov.au/WorkArea/DownloadAsset.aspx?id=60129542324.

9 Change the Story, p. 12, viewed 10 May 2016.

10 See for example, Stark, E, 2007, Coercive control: How men entrap women in personal life, Oxford University Press, Oxford.

11 DVRCV & WLSV, 2013, Serious Invasions of Privacy in the Digital Era, submission to the Australian Law Reform Commission Review http://www.alrc.gov.au/sites/default/files/subs/48._org__womens_legal_service_victoria_wlsv_and_domestic_violence_resource_centre _victoria_dvrcv.pdf

12 Taft, A, 2002, Violence against women in pregnancy and after childbirth: Current knowledge and issues in health care responses Issues Paper: 6, Australian Domestic & Family Violence Clearinghouse, UNSW, Sydney. http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Issuespaper6.pdf

13 VicHealth, 2011, Violence against women in Australia: Research summary, November 2011. https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/media‐ and‐resources/publications/violence‐against‐women‐in‐australia‐research‐summary.

14 Flood,M&Fergus,L,2008,Anassaultonourfuture:Theimpactofviolenceonyoungpeopleandtheirrelationships,WhiteRibbon Foundation, Sydney. www.whiteribbon.org.au/uploads/media/Research_series/An_assault_on_our_future_FULL_Flood__Fergus_2010.pdf, and Richards, K, 2011, Children’s exposure to domestic violence in Australia: Trends and Issues in Crime and Criminal Justice No: 419, Australian Institute of Criminology, June 2011, http://aic.gov.au/publications/current%20series/tandi/401‐420/tandi419.html.

15 Entin, E, 2012, “How family violence changes the way children’s brains function”. The Atlantic 2 January 2012. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/01/how‐family‐violence‐changes‐the‐way‐childrens‐brains‐function/250571/.

16 Flood, M & Fergus, L, 2008, An assault on our future: The impact of violence on young people and their relationships, White Ribbon Foundation, Sydney.

17 DV Vic, 2015, Specialist Family Violence Services: The Heart of an Effective System, Submission to the Victorian Royal Commission into Family Violence, June 2015, pp. 10–11.

18 Barrett Meyering, I, 2012, “Staying/leaving: Barriers to ending violent relationships”, Fast Facts: 7 Australian Domestic & Family Violence Clearinghouse, The University of New South Wales, Sydney, http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Fast_Facts_7.pdf.

19 Marian Pitts et al, 2006 Private Lives: A Report on the health and wellbeing of GLBTI Australians Monograph Series No 57 The Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and Society, Latrobe University, Melbourne

20 Cox, P 2015 Violence Against women in Australia; Additional analysis of the Australian Bureau of Statistics’ Personal">https://issuu.com/anrows/docs/151021_horizons_1.1_pss_/1?e=15370348/30848390">Personal Safety Survey 2012, ANROWS, Canberra

21 Flood, M & Fergus, L, 2008, An assault on our future: The impact of violence on young people and their relationships, White Ribbon Foundation, Sydney.

22 http://anrows.org.au/sites/default/files/Violence-Against-Australian-Women-Key-Statistics.pdf">http://anrows.org.au/sites/default/files/Violence-Against-Australian-Women-Key-Statistics.pdf">http://anrows.org.au/sites/default/files/Violence-Against-Australian-Women-Key-Statistics.pdf